New Year Resolutions

Topic: New Year Resolutions

Every year people resolve to create lists that have all of the things they will and won't do in the next year. Somewhere around month number two these lists are nowhere to be found. I made a new year resolution two years ago and it was to not make anymore new year resolutions. I decided that I would make a list of goals to complete each month and hold myself to them. I found out that I did better with that than a resolution. I am not saying that we shouldn't make them however I am saying that we should push to make goals in smaller segments and pace ourselves. We are creatures of habit so therefore we should allow ourselves time for change. With all of that being said what do you think? What are your goals for the next month or the following?
One of the things I fail to see is people concentrating on getting their own attitude in check.
I mean it's very simple to compose a list that consists of you loving people more and serving people or giving back to the needy but if you don't have an attitude of gratitude then what's the use?
This year take the time to really focus on your own attitude and see what you can improve on and go from there. Trust me people will appreciate a fresher you!

Much Love!

Well the year has come to an end and I must say that it has been quite a wonderful year. I know many of you maybe wondering, "well what in the world did you do?" and the answer to that question is "nothing". I learned how to be content in any situation no matter if its lack or abundance. That is one of my favorite scriptures out of the bible. Paul understood what it took and so do I. There was something I dealt with this year and that was how to maintain a relationship. How to be happy in them and how to honor your partner and encourage them anyway you can. You see, I learned a great deal of things by being "hurt" by my significant other. That hurt did me some justice. I know it sounds strange but I have to look at everything in my life as an opportunity for advancement, growth or just a plain old life lesson.

At what point in a relationship does one person dictate the outcome of the commitment? I thought it was two fold. I thought the idea was to have each person implement their ideas and share their customs and the other person does likewise. Maybe I am confused about how a relationship should function but once again, I am not considered the average woman.

If you give your word about anything and commit to being a part of that thing, then it is your duty to give it your best. Your word is all you have. A relationship is not pay as you go, or you go first then I will see you at the end or let me see what you do and then I will follow suit. If you want the other person to do as you do and put forth the commitment then you should lead by example. Many people will not innately do what you expect them to do, they will do what they want to do. It is the idea of intention that makes us rationalize what we have not done. We can explain what we have done but when it comes to what we have not done, it will be the intention that is the excuse. When it comes to other people, the idea of intention just doesn’t work. We want to know why you did it the way you did it or why you even did it at all. I think that is an unfair requirement, knowing full well that we fall short ourselves. It is pertinent that we do not go around with these impossible expectations and get upset when the people we are involved with don’t meet them. To be honest , most of us wont meet them either. It is perfectly fine to hold people to a higher standard and while we are holding them to that we are to encourage what is on the inside of them. If we would take the time to think before we speak many of the thoughts that are articulated will stay what they start out as………..thoughts! if you cannot give it, don’t require it. I cannot expect for you to love me to the fullest extent and unconditionally if I cannot love you unconditionally. Its not fair to the other person so lets be mindful of the other persons feelings. I am not saying that we must sugar coat everything but it is important that we are considerate of the other persons feelings and make ourselves totally aware of what makes them tick. Speaking the truth is very important and being open is another however, the deliverance of the message is just as important as the message.

When you are in a relationship it is not about self all the time. What’s the point of you always wanting it to be about you if you are in a relationship with someone? We must take the time to enjoy the other person’s interests and they should do likewise. I truly believe that it is an idiosyncrasy on both parts to behave a certain way, or to have the peculiar outlook he or she does.

These are just my thoughts and my ideas of what it takes to create the foundation for an incredible and lasting relationship.

Don't embarass me in public.......

So you are out with the kids and one of your own decides to put on a show! I mean a knock down drag out show. He or she is whining very loudly, and crying profusely. He or she is screaming and shouting about what he or she wants. What do you do? Do you discipline your children in public or burn with fire until you get home then discipline them?

I have been put in this situation before and it's no fun, I can honestly say that I had to straighten that little boy out right then and there. I told him that I was not the one to play with and I would knock the jam out of his toes if he ever crossed me again. Needless to say he never tried me again.
Sometimes I feel as though they just want to see if they can get away with it.

So what do you think? How do you respond when your children try you in public.

I want to hear about it!

What have you been called to do?

What have you been called to do? Whatever the higher power you believe in, are you being called to do something greater and have yet to do it?

Many times I hear people say, "I just have a gift with....." or "I work very well with...."
Whatever that (........) that fill in the blank, that is your gift, that is your passion.
Your passion will take you wherever you want to go.
I speak to many women entrepreneurs and they say I am not making the money I should be making or I am not making money at all. The first thing I ask is, "are you working in your gift? "Are you operating in your calling?" Well if you aren't then do it! And if you are then there is a disconnect somewhere and we need to find out what it is. Maybe it's the marketing or sales approach or whatever it maybe try allowing someone else (preferably a mentor or coach) look at your sales and marketing strategy and see what they have to offer.
One of the saddest things I have ever seen is a perfect business plan or idea with a bad strategy.
We were not put on this earth to operate alone, seek the opinion of others.
Everyone's opinion won't be for you but you will know which ones to take!
God Bless!

How do you deal with stress?

How do you deal with stress?
Many of us count to a specific number, many of us take deep breaths or walk.
I have even seen people scream until THEY feel better.
What do you do? Is your stress reliever mental or physical?
I know one of my stress relievers is to walk in silence. Another way for me to relieve stress is to clean up. My children know that when I am cleaning, I am in my zone and don't disturb me!
Tell me how you handle stress and what do you.
Talk to me, leave your comments and suggestions for those who don't know how.

Are you living above your means?

Many of us today live way above our means?
Many of us say we just want ends to meet and true enough that is a want but, ends don't meet!
I sat down a couple of m0nth ago and decided to list all of our expenses and I was truly saddened!
I decided to cut back on my expenses and take control of what I was spending. I budgeted $300 for all of my utilities. I called up the utility companies and said this is what I have to spend if I can't get a plan or a package within that range, I can't be your customer anymore. Well it WORKED! The power company wasn't going for it but they did say I can do budget billing! My satellite bill went from $80 a month to $33 and my cell phone bill went from $200 to $99 a month. The only reason why my cell phone bill is so high is because I have four lines.
I want to know if any of you are willing to sacrifice and save for what you want.
I am! It has been really hard but I know that I will get what I want in the end!
I want to know what you want and are your willing to sacrifice to get it? What are you willing to give up to get the big picture?
Talk to me!

To loan or not to loan that is the question!

To loan or not to loan that is the question,
Do you loan your family money? Are you one of the ones they coming running to because they know you have it? Or you the one that everyone knows has it but, refuse to come to you? Are you specific on timelines and deadlines? Or are you the type to give them as much time as they need?
I have loaned money before and have been loaned money to. I am going to keep it real, we have all been through this and you loan a family member some money and everything is straight until it is time to pay the money back. Then you see the family member at the next family function and you're hardly speaking because you looking at the brand new car he just bought or the house he is having the family function in and you say "they can go and buy this or that and not pay me my money back?"
Keep it real with me fam, you have done it or have been on the other end of the stick!
What do you think?
Much love!

How do you feel?

Good evening,
There are so many things that are happening in the world that if you are not grounded in whatever you believe in, you will fall victim to the media and the woes of the world. What is something that bothers you or is on your mind from time to time? How do you handle the stress? How do you stay balanced?
Share with us!

What do you believe?

I have been doing my research regarding the BP OIL SPILL. I found some pretty interesting things regarding this spill. AC Griffith posted three videos on youtube regarding the BP oil spill and what the media isn't telling you. I would like for everyone to go to youtube.com and type in bp oil spill and it is the one that has three different videos. I would like for you to comment on this. Don't worry I will not criticize your comments everyone has the right to say what they feel.
Be encouraged!
P.S. I am learning how to upload the videos so bear with me!